Does gender ideology affect society?
Yes—detransitioners’ firsthand accounts show that it reshapes expectations for both sexes by reinforcing, rather than loosening, traditional gender roles.

1. It erases gender-nonconforming people.
Feminine boys and tomboys are told their interests prove they are “really” the opposite sex or non-binary. “Masculine girls are almost extinct… a lot of butch lesbians end up wanting top surgery and hormones.” – thistle_ev source [citation:018b7a4e-5c2a-4988-916c-441eb05dda7b]

2. It channels children toward medical transition.
Everyday policing—calling pink clothes “grooming” for boys or labeling strong girls as “boys inside”—teaches kids that non-conformity equals a need to change sex. “The same kids being told that… inevitably conclude they have to impersonate the opposite sex.” – byunaus source [citation:5a4aa3df-6113-4b8f-bee3-63d4edd9b0dd]

3. It relies on exaggerated stereotypes to “pass.”
To be read as the other sex, people adopt long hair, specific clothing, gait, and body-shape cues, hard-wiring the very roles that caused discomfort. “I can’t ‘be a woman’ without long hair… I need multiple cultural signals to resignify the opposite sex.” – Twinkyfromhell source [citation:59fc813e-ba6c-4f2b-9021-d4ff2f5b6d0a]

4. It deepens misogyny.
Girls absorb the message that being female is “weaker and less fun,” pushing them toward transition as an escape. “We are told girls are whiny, weaker, shallow… It’s programmed into our brains.” – lumpydumpy22222 source [citation:d1e094a2-8647-464b-a2dd-e52611a32e07]

In short, detransitioners describe gender ideology as a societal mechanism that repackages old stereotypes—telling boys who like pink they must be girls and girls who climb trees they must be boys—while funneling both toward medical solutions instead of acceptance of gender non-conformity.